Oh happy day! We were invited to a traditional Chinese wedding this Sunday for one of my coworkers. We’re very excited, but also a more than a little nervous. Here’s what went through my head:
- Do they realize the amount of havoc that 3 boys who can’t understand anything happening or anyone speaking are capable of wreaking?
- What do we bring as a gift?
- What do we wear?
- Wow, we and one other couple will be the only Americans there. No pressure, just representing your family, company and country to one of the biggest days of a couple’s life together.
After asking another coworker for advice, and talking to some other expats, I calmed down a bit. Below is a snippet of the conversation at work (paraphrased):
Me: “Are flowers a good gift to bring? I’m not sure what is appropriate for a wedding.”
Other: “Yes, that’s a great gift.”
Me: “Do I have to worry about bringing the wrong flower, like one that’s only used for funerals?”
Other: “No, nothing to worry about.”
Me: “Really? That’s easy then.”
Other: “Well, don’t bring any roses, only the groom gives roses. You know what? Maybe it’s better for you to just give money.”
Me: “Sounds like it, so how much is appropriate? I don’t want his new wife and family to think poorly of me or the company.”
Other: “Whatever you think is best. But, don’t give 250RMB. In Chinese, the number read aloud sounds like the word for idiot. Give even numbers only. The numbers 6 (luck) and 8 (wealth) are good. The best number is 666.”
HUH?????? Oh man, is this interesting. I was also told I could wear whatever I want, t-shirt or suit, both are acceptable. Thankfully the same coworker that helped me above brought in a suitable red envelope (greeting card and cash envelope all in one, same as what we gave the boys for New Years but with a pair of love birds instead of Mickey Mouse). Also, I’m sure the boys will be a hit, judging by our usual public experiences.
At the end of the day, it is a huge honor for us; and knowing what gracious hosts the Chinese are, I am absolutely sure that it will be an experience we will never forget. I’ll post the follow up after we go.
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